Saturday, October 23, 2010


So, I just realized today that ICLW has been going on for two days, and hurriedly made the rounds tonight. Ugh, I'm terrible. And it's been a while since I've done ICLW. Forgive me?

For anyone who's new here, I'm the frequently-traveling parent of a 10-month-old Chicklette, conceived after 2+ years of trying. We were successful after a few rounds of Clomid and an IVF cycle.

If you look back a couple of posts, you'll see that I am currently experiencing some Marital Discord. I'm told this is normal for parents of newborns, but I will say (without revealing too much, because I am crazy paranoid about anyone in my family reading this) that we have some issues that are a bit beyond what I think is the scope of "typical" new parent stress. BUT, we are in counseling and working at it.

The immediate ramification of all of this is that I think our original plan to get back on the horse (or, I guess more accurately, back in the stirrups) in January has been delayed indefinitely. Not TOO indefinitely, because I'll be 35 in a couple of months, but I can't really imagine bringing another baby into the current situation.

So, here I am. Incredibly blessed by my beautiful, perfect baby girl. Struggling to keep my marriage together. Working like crazy to stay in my employer's good graces in this crazy economy. Taking it, as they say, one day at a time.



Mrs. R said...

Just wanted to say hi! I've been reading your blog for a bit now. Your daughter is beautiful and I love hearing about all your experiences raising her.

Tracy said...

Just wanted to say you are not alone! We're having some marital issues as well although I'm the only one that seems to think so. :/

So glad you guys are working everything out with counseling. Have a wonderful weekend. :)

Unknown said...

Wishing you the best juggling all the pleasures and chores as mommy-wife-professional!

daega99 said...

Hope the counseling goes well and you'll be on the road to #2 soon.


Brooke said...

Sorry to hear you two are struggling but good that you are working on it. The husband and I have been married for 6 1/2 years and have been dealing with difficulties as well. Not anything extreme. I think that any relationship (unless there is abuse or infidelity) can overcome what is in front of them. Its just a matter of how long it will take and if both people are willing to work at it. As you know with ttc the best things in life are not easy to come by. A happy marriage included. I hope things move toward better days for you and you are able to look forward to good times.

Anonymous said...

Hi Barefoot!

I just wanted to say congratulations to you and Mr. on your little one! I'm sorry for the marital trouble, but like the optimism you had with your pregnancy challenge, this is sure to foretell the same. Trust in that.

I wish you well!


My Hopeful Journey said...

Wow... we seem to have so much in common. I am becoming a follower right NOW! Thanks for sharing...

Justine L said...

Sounds like we're all in the same boat ... one day at a time, for sure! Our marriage is far from perfect ... but my husband has also found my blog, so it's not something I write about. Sounds like you're done some remarkable holding it all together work! Thanks for visiting, and happy ICLW!